My daughters have come from far away cities to visit for a few days. It has made me reflect on Mothers and Daughters. I could do entire blog just about Mothers and Daughters….daily.
Last week as we were leaving the rehab center where my brother-in-law would be departing for surgery never to return, Mom and I began to take the few personal belongings from his room.
As we were leaving, my Mom picked up the three little mylar ballons each on its own stick, that people had given my BIL for his birthday the month before. I thought she was going to throw them in the trash. But she clutched them to her bosom like she had just discovered a new grandchild.
“What are you going to do with those,” I asked, ok accusingly. I asked accusingly. The whole point of this exercise was to leave behind the crap and just take what was absolutely necessary.
“Well, they’re his. I don’t want to leave them behind,” she said by way of obvious explanation to her idiot daughter.
So I turned to my BIL:
“Do you REALLY want these crappy balloons?” I asked. Ok, I asked sarcastically.
“What balloons?” said the guy in rehab who was getting ready for surgery and clearly was not in a festive mood.
“Ugh. Mom, throw that crap away. What does he need it for?” I asked her.
“Well, I could give them to other people with birthdays. Like Jeannie, it’s her birthday soon. I could give her one.” said my Mom innocently.
With that the guy in the bed pipes up, “Yeah, give one to Jeannie and tell her it’s from me and Happy Birthday.”
So home with us the balloons go.
This is the same woman who three days later calls me and says:
“Okay, I’ve cleaned out all of your BIL’s clothing from his dresser, and gave away everything he’ll never wear. I took all his medical supplies and meds and stored them in my house until we figure out what to keep in his new apartment. And I’m going to start taking pictures off the walls next week.”
“MOM!,” I said with the crazy attitude that every daughter wants to say to her mother every time they talk.
“What are you doing? We don’t even have a place for him to live yet after surgery. If we can’t get arrangements made, he may have to go back to his apartment temporarily. Let’s not make it look like a prison cell. There’s plenty of time to throw things away.”
Of course, I’m thinking, “at least he’ll have some nice balloons to look at, wherever he goes.”
“You Just have to Laugh….”
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