Sometimes, I just feel compelled to tell a tale because you just want to share with the world the things you discuss on the phone, that you NEVER thought would be a part of your lexicon.
I have had a few difficult weeks, but during that time, brother-in-law, L, with multiple sclerosis has been magnificent. Last year was very difficult for him, he had a myriad of health issues and he was in a rehab center/nursing home for a few months. It was pretty awful. But we were able to get him back home. Get him on his feet (figuratively not literally) and through a lot of medical care, ultimately put him in a pretty good place. He has these AMAZING caregivers who come every day to get him up and dressed, in his wheelchair, and then at night get him ready for and into bed. His MS prevents him from walking or standing any more, but he gets around like a champ in his electric wheel chair, and goes to meals, plays poker and smokes a pack a day out in the beautiful sunshine every day.
He has been SO good for the last year…..that on some level, I’m just waiting for “the other shoe to drop”. But his attitude is positive (for a curmudgeon, which is what he’s ALWAYS been) and he is truly adored by his caregivers. He’s even gotten a fish tank from his son, and watches the fishees like they’re his new best friends.
I am so very, very grateful that he has been well and happy for the last year. And I pray every day for just another ordinary day. So today my phone rings and it’s not a number I recognize. I always answer those numbers in case it’s about anyone I’m caring for. Most of the time, it’s a robocall. But this one went like this:
“Hello?”
“Hello, Cathy?”
“Yes, this is me.”
“This is Mrs. W, a nurse from the facility where your brother-in-law lives.”
NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO, I’m thinking.
“Uh-oh,” I say, “anything up?”
“Oh no, everything is fine, it’s really ok, no worries.”
YEAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA,I’m thinking, but I’m suspicious. Nurses don’t call for no reason.
“I just wanted you to know that we were called by the caregivers because L had an open sore and they wanted us to look at it and treat it if necessary.”
“Oh, yes,” I say relieved, “I know about that, they asked me to get some derma-patches for the area. Are they not working?”
“Well, the patches he had were not staying on, but I got some ‘industrial strength’ ones and they seem to be staying on, so we will probably be able to get this sore to heal. We don’t want it to get too bad, or then he would need to go to the doctor or hospital.”
“Oh yes, of course, ” I say. And now I am almost giddy with relief that it is not anything serious and these great people are on top of it.
“So, just so you know, the area is a bit pink with a little clear injury showing. It is located between his anus and his scrotum, so it’s hard to keep the patch there, and we may have to work on keeping that there without peeling off, just to make sure we have significant healing time.
I’m now thinking…..well, I don’t have a scrotum, but ‘industrial strength’ patches there probably really hurts.
I say:
“Ummmm, okay. Well is there anything else I need to know or do?” (Please God, say ‘no’)
“Oh, no just keep an eye on it and I think he’ll be fine,” says this fantastic nurse.”
“Ummm, okay,” I say. But I’m thinking…yeah I’m not keeping an eye on that….ever.
You just have to laugh………
Cathy Sikorski